Offering support for victims in Sanders & Mineral Counties in Montana.
What is Teen Dating Violence?
Dating violence is the physical, sexual, emotional, or verbal maltreatment of a dating partner for the purpose of gaining power and control over that person.
Everyone gets jealous sometimes; the key word is "extreme". Signs of extreme jealousy are when your partner gets mad if you talk to other people, have good friends, or express warm feelings for anyone else. The jealous person may withdraw, sulk, or become angry and abusive.
This becomes a danger sign when someone treats you as if you were a belonging. The possessive person will not want you to share your time or give your attention to anyone else.
This happens when one partner completely rules the relationship and makes all the decisions. Your point of view is not important. Often the controlling partner tries to tell the other how to dress, who to talk to, and where to go.
People with low self-esteem don't like themselves very much. In a dating relationship, a person with low self-esteem may say, "I am nothing without you" or "You are my world". These are great lines for songs, but not for real life.
Unpredictable mood swings
Nobody stays in the same mood all the time, but a quick shift from being jealous, controlling, or angry to being sweet, charming, and loving can be a warning sign.
Alcohol and Drug Use
Many of the reported violent episodes in dating relationships are carried out when one or both partners have been drinking or doing drugs. Alcohol and drug use lower a person's self-control, but are not the direct cause of violence.
Even if you have never seen someone being aggressive toward another person, watch out for people who seem to get too angry. These people may hit walls, lockers, yell loudly, call names, or actually threaten others with violence.
Constantly criticize and call you names?
Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?
Humiliate you in front of others?
Discourage your relationships with friends
Make you account for all your time?
Prevent you from working or attending
Anger easily when drinking or using drugs?
Control your finances?
Destroy your personal property or
Hit, punch, slap, kick, or choke you?
Threaten to hurt you?
Use or threaten to use a weapon on you?
Force you to have sex when you don't want
Threatens suicide if you try to leave?